Friday, December 2, 2011

For Ed@HomeDad on His Birthday


For Ed@HomeDad on His Birthday: My Hot List
Today is Edgar’s birthday and in honor of a wonderful father and husband, I wanted to share just a few of the many things that make him so great:

He’s a Super Heroes, Sports and Science Connoisseur
Edgar has made sure Elle is a well-rounded, fun-loving kid. While many girls at her school are obsessed with things like the Disney Princesses and Justin Bieber, Elle can aptly discuss everything from make-up to sports to science. When the weather is nice, they regularly go to the park and play basketball, baseball, soccer, lacrosse, and football. On the days they’re at home they may be working on arts and crafts or reading super hero comics. Elle is obsessed with science and can explain to you how the earth was created, what a microorganism is or how the human body responds to eastern medicine. Edgar has subject-matter expertise well beyond my domain. And he always encourages her interests, no matter what they might be – he makes sure he doesn’t limit her curiosity to what girls “should” be in to. Whenever she complains that one of her classmates thinks her love of bugs is gross or asks if she’s a boy because she wants to play Batman he always tells her, “don’t worry about what other people say, you can be interested in whatever you want and don’t focus on what other kids want you to do.” I love that we have a girly, athletic, science geek for a daughter. It makes her interesting and I hope she never loses her sense of curiosity and enthusiasm that he encourages every day.

He Takes Silliness to the Extreme
Elle regularly ranks funniness in our family. Edgar and my father always come in at the top and my mother and I always fall to the bottom. I’m the one Elle comes to when she wants to cuddle or color or read. I’m the snuggler and the quiet one in the family. While I like to think I have a great sense of humor, it’s definitely of a drier, more adult flavor. Edgar is the silly one. The two of them can spend hours joking back and forth about what seem to me to be the most random things. And these things often weave themselves into themes that we regularly revisit. For example, did you know that we apparently have a House Donkey? He is an invisible donkey that lives in our house – I’m not sure how he got here or what he does all day, but he’s here to stay and source of endless giggles. It’s also not unusual to have them call each other nicknames based on Mexican foods. Elle will start as Nacho, then Edgar will be Taco. Edgar comes back with Taquito and so on. Then there are the pranks. Sometimes I walk into my bedroom to find a life-sized figure pieced together from a basketball and stuffed stockings dressed up as the lady from The Grudge hanging from the closet. Sometimes our poor dog, Bentley, has eyeglasses and mustache drawn onto his fur in washable marker. These are things that would never, ever occur to me to do. But Edgar thinks of them and Elle loves them.

He Shows Tireless Devotion
Elle is most certainly not a low-energy kid. When she’s not in school, she is constantly asking questions, wanting to explore, and looking for the next activity. Don’t get me wrong, I love this about her. I’m thankful that she’s not a child that can be entertained watching TV all day, but it also means that there is no such thing as half-heartedly engaging with her or taking a break. And Edgar always gives her as much attention, time, and focus as she wants (even when he’s fighting allergies or a sinus infection or a torn stomach muscle). Her favorite days are when she doesn’t have school and can spend all day with him. When she is in school, Edgar doesn’t take it easy. He is a wonderful cook and spends hours prepping delicious dinners each night. He manages the entire household – running errands, doing laundry, cleaning, and on and on and on. But every evening, whether he’s spent it with Elle or running around town like a crazy person, we always wind down with a delicious dinner, good conversation and quality family time. When most people would be exhausted he still finds the time to care and support both of us no matter how long his day was. Not too many people are lucky enough to have someone in their life who works so tirelessly to make time together as enjoyable as possible. There are many things that have been challenging about his life as a stay-at-home dad, but the quality of our family life and the happiness we find in each other every day is worth more than anything else in the world.

Friday, October 28, 2011

Monday, July 18, 2011

I Think I'm Turning Into A Grumpy Old Man

Maybe it's the few white hairs making an appearance on my head or maybe I need to get out more. But I think that I'm turning in to a grumpy old man. Now I will share a list of example of things that leave me shaking my fist at the sky and just another old man ranting.


  • We have two dogs that thankfully bark when someone rings the door bell or knocks at the door. This characteristic is very helpful. My next door neighbor's dog doesn't seem to share this ability. It's in the habit of barking all day. As if it's on a time clock, it punches in at eight and clocks out around six.  
  • I remember learning the arm gestures for signaling a turn in driver's ed. Luckily for many decades cars have come equipped with turn signals. Hence with a quick flick your intention of where you are going to turn is indicated. It seems that the ability to use this device is a simple act that has been forgotten. Thus leading to a bit of a guessing game on my part. If I was blessed with the gift of mind reading yes, I would know their intentions. But, if I had the ability to read minds I would be wealthy and I would have a driver that would deal with this. Or, I might possibly be locked in a secret government base somewhat like one of those "X-Men".
  • Living in the city we often get fliers and menus dropped off on a nearly daily basis. That I have no problem with in the slightest. What does irk me is if you ring the doorbell to hand me said flier or menu. That, sir or madam, is unnecessary. That what the mail slot is for and as I mentioned in the first bullet point the dogs react to the door bell.
That is all for my grumpy old man musings. I am sure I will be back again to revisit my old man side with a firm shaking fist pointed to the sky. 

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Watch The U.S. Women's World Cup Soccer Team-Previously Posted On LIFEclectic Magazine

This piece appeared on Monday at LIFEclectic Magazine after the amazing victory by the U.S. Women's National team against Brazil. With a victory this past Wednesday they go to face Japan in the World Cup Finals on Sunday. In case you missed this inspiring team's exploits you have one more chance to see them. For the link to Monday's post, click here.

Monday, July 11, 2011

Nutrition Is A Important Part Of Our Family-Previously Posted On LIFEclectic Magazine

Making healthy food choices and educating our daughter about nutrition is important to us as parents and as a family. We feel one of the most important steps begins with us as parents leading by example. To help us in this effort, we started gardening and making sure our daughter is involved in the process of growing, planning menus and cooking. This has helped us teach her the importance of bringing nutritional meals to the table. But the choice to be healthier really took hold before we even became parents. To read the rest of the post click on the link to LIFEclectic magazine.

Monday, July 4, 2011

I Am A Stay At Home Dad-Posted Previously On LIFEclectic Magazine

I am a stay at home dad. That simple statement is the answer I give when someone inquires into what I do. Ninety-five percent of the time the reaction uttered is one of surprise. Since being the at home parent since 2008 I thought by now I would get use to that reaction. It’s not a new phenomenon. I assume those that have asked are familiar with the term stay at home dad. I guess they just haven’t meet one in person. To read the rest of the post from last week, please click on the link to LIFEclectic Magazine.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Little Moments That Make It Special

With the grind that comes along with the weeks and months that go by it's easy to get tunnel vision. The little moments when we are together as a family without anything on the agenda except spending time with each other - those moments tend to bring everything into focus. Time slows down and a sense of peace seems to take hold. Those moments are the one's that help me reset from whatever stress may be weighing on me. As little as those moments might be they are memories I file away in the back of my mind. All the stresses and worries that seem to anchor me down are minor in scope. Everything that makes me happy and fulfilled is right in front of me.

None of it would be possible if it weren't for a marriage that took place eight years ago today. Walking down that aisle in a chapel in Las Vegas after we became husband and wife was the start of a beautiful union. Many of life's obstacles have come our way and together we have leaned on each other. My wife has helped shape me into a better person and together we have made a family. One that fills me with love and happiness. To a great eight years and to many more happy anniversaries, my love.