Friday, December 2, 2011

For Ed@HomeDad on His Birthday

For Ed@HomeDad on His Birthday: My Hot List
Today is Edgar’s birthday and in honor of a wonderful father and husband, I wanted to share just a few of the many things that make him so great:

He’s a Super Heroes, Sports and Science Connoisseur
Edgar has made sure Elle is a well-rounded, fun-loving kid. While many girls at her school are obsessed with things like the Disney Princesses and Justin Bieber, Elle can aptly discuss everything from make-up to sports to science. When the weather is nice, they regularly go to the park and play basketball, baseball, soccer, lacrosse, and football. On the days they’re at home they may be working on arts and crafts or reading super hero comics. Elle is obsessed with science and can explain to you how the earth was created, what a microorganism is or how the human body responds to eastern medicine. Edgar has subject-matter expertise well beyond my domain. And he always encourages her interests, no matter what they might be – he makes sure he doesn’t limit her curiosity to what girls “should” be in to. Whenever she complains that one of her classmates thinks her love of bugs is gross or asks if she’s a boy because she wants to play Batman he always tells her, “don’t worry about what other people say, you can be interested in whatever you want and don’t focus on what other kids want you to do.” I love that we have a girly, athletic, science geek for a daughter. It makes her interesting and I hope she never loses her sense of curiosity and enthusiasm that he encourages every day.

He Takes Silliness to the Extreme
Elle regularly ranks funniness in our family. Edgar and my father always come in at the top and my mother and I always fall to the bottom. I’m the one Elle comes to when she wants to cuddle or color or read. I’m the snuggler and the quiet one in the family. While I like to think I have a great sense of humor, it’s definitely of a drier, more adult flavor. Edgar is the silly one. The two of them can spend hours joking back and forth about what seem to me to be the most random things. And these things often weave themselves into themes that we regularly revisit. For example, did you know that we apparently have a House Donkey? He is an invisible donkey that lives in our house – I’m not sure how he got here or what he does all day, but he’s here to stay and source of endless giggles. It’s also not unusual to have them call each other nicknames based on Mexican foods. Elle will start as Nacho, then Edgar will be Taco. Edgar comes back with Taquito and so on. Then there are the pranks. Sometimes I walk into my bedroom to find a life-sized figure pieced together from a basketball and stuffed stockings dressed up as the lady from The Grudge hanging from the closet. Sometimes our poor dog, Bentley, has eyeglasses and mustache drawn onto his fur in washable marker. These are things that would never, ever occur to me to do. But Edgar thinks of them and Elle loves them.

He Shows Tireless Devotion
Elle is most certainly not a low-energy kid. When she’s not in school, she is constantly asking questions, wanting to explore, and looking for the next activity. Don’t get me wrong, I love this about her. I’m thankful that she’s not a child that can be entertained watching TV all day, but it also means that there is no such thing as half-heartedly engaging with her or taking a break. And Edgar always gives her as much attention, time, and focus as she wants (even when he’s fighting allergies or a sinus infection or a torn stomach muscle). Her favorite days are when she doesn’t have school and can spend all day with him. When she is in school, Edgar doesn’t take it easy. He is a wonderful cook and spends hours prepping delicious dinners each night. He manages the entire household – running errands, doing laundry, cleaning, and on and on and on. But every evening, whether he’s spent it with Elle or running around town like a crazy person, we always wind down with a delicious dinner, good conversation and quality family time. When most people would be exhausted he still finds the time to care and support both of us no matter how long his day was. Not too many people are lucky enough to have someone in their life who works so tirelessly to make time together as enjoyable as possible. There are many things that have been challenging about his life as a stay-at-home dad, but the quality of our family life and the happiness we find in each other every day is worth more than anything else in the world.


  1. Ed it is really long time we didn't heard from you. pls post something soon.
    - Herman Swan